I am certain that people have our best interest in mind when they say "Stop stressing", "It will happen when its meant to", "Stop thinking about it and relax", "Go on a holiday", "You're trying too hard", or my personal favourite "I know people who struggled for years to fall pregnant and they decided to adopt and then suddenly, she fell pregnant, naturally".
We are very gracious when receiving this 'advice', however deep down we want to say "Shut the F up! You don't know what you're talking about". In fact, I did say that to someone, and she got all indignant- I had offended her. How about taking a step back and wondering whether I could potentially take offence to the abovementioned comments???
I am old enough to know my body. I have been dealing with infertility since my first miscarriage at 18- that's 21 years!!!! If it was 'going to happen', it would have!
I've even had people suggest that we are 'stupid' by continuing with our specialist. "What's the definition of stupidity, doing the same thing but expecting different results", is what was said to us. I replied by saying that every time we go through treatment, things are changed and as far as I knew, the only people in the consultation room was my husband, my doctor and I. How do they know we are doing the same thing every time...?
Why do people think that we are public property, open to scrutiny? I want everyone to back off and not a say a word to me about MY condition and MY treatment. I want everyone to think whether I could take offence by their comments, rather than them getting offended by my replies.
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